Confession: any time I write content where I'm going to talk about my money or income in my business, I want to hide.
The content flows, and without fail, as soon as I’m finished, my immediate instinct is to go back and hit the delete button.
I don't want to send that email or share that piece of content with my FB group or on IG anymore. I worry about what my team is going to think when they read it.
I won’t want to publish the podcast episode, let alone share it with my editor. My brain goes to, “How can we get rid of that part that says that number? Can we edit that out?”
It doesn’t matter what the number is, each time, my brain tells the story that this time it's too much to share, and, because the brain is absurd, in other cases, not nearly enough. Which is also helpful to notice because it helps me catch my own BS and see it really has nothing to do with the money or the number if I want to fight for both too much and not enough to be true!
I notice this in clients as well. They pour their heart out and create something they really feel strongly about. But once it’s done they immediately think, “This is too much. People won’t be able to handle this. Then, in the next breath, what if this isn’t enough?”
What they’re really saying is, “I don't know if I can handle this.”
Whether it’s about money or not (and let’s be real, it’s rarely *actually* about the money or presenting, surface level thing), the brain’s want to feel safe will have you censor yourself because it’s afraid of being too much and simultaneously not enough and what it thinks will come along with that (the pitchforks, rejection, laughter, crickets).
Censoring is a way to self-protect that can show up in your marketing, offers, content, and your emotions.
But when you censor something on one side, you also limit your capacity to receive on the other. Censoring to self-protect from the “bad stuff” also hinders your capacity to let in the good stuff - clients, money, joy.
Your brain is brilliant, and it’s also basic in that when you pull back because you don’t want to be “too much” your brain doesn’t have a filter that says, ‘Oh, but it’s OK to let in too much money or too much joy!” It just hears the instructions, “Don’t be too much. This isn’t safe. Avoid ‘too much’”.
Bringing it back to talking about money and income, every time I notice that instinct to pull back I pattern interrupt by reminding myself that when you stop censoring and allow yourself to take up space unapologetically, you help make it safe for others to do the same, and often your “too muchness” is the very thing people need to hear in the way only you can share it.
And, as uncomfortable as it might feel, part of not censoring yourself means also stretching your capacity for the amount of good you create through your work and not censoring impact, income, and joy.
Because one thing I know for sure is worrying about being too much, coming across as too much, asking for too much, sharing too much are all ways entrepreneurs hide in plain sight, waste precious brain space, and this is costing you and your business too much.
Your willingness to unapologetically be TOO MUCH and take up space directly affects your ability to make those next-level, record-breaking cash deposits AND the change and impact your beautiful work creates.
This week, I invite you to notice where you’re censoring yourself - whether that’s in the context of your content, how you’re showing up and taking space, with the emotions you express, or the good stuff you’re allowing into your business - and to look for your opportunities to lean into being “too much” and stretch your capacity to receive too much of the good stuff like clients, cash, and joy.
Wishing you your version of success!
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