I have this memory of being at a friend's tea party-themed birthday when I was a kid - and yes, I promise, this has everything to do with you, your business, being too much, and allowing yourself to ask for and receive “too much” money.
Her mom served us tea sandwiches and I was getting ready to finish mine, eyeing the extras and eager for a second helping that was being offered.
Now before we go further, for context, you should know I’ve always had a very large appetite. On my second date with my now husband, we went out for pizza…he thought I’d have a slice or two, but I ate my entire half and then he caught me eyeballing the rest of his. So, at this tea party, of course, one dainty tea sandwich wasn’t going to satisfy me.
As I reached for a second helping, another parent intercepted and lovingly told me that it was “Not polite to ask for or to take more. That’s just not what polite girls do.”
She didn’t mean to scold or shame me, but I still remember feeling like I had been “bad” and did something wrong by wanting to accept what was being offered to me.
That moment impacted my identity and my belief system for a long time because I wanted to be
“polite” and what I’m sure my child brain thought meant “acceptable” and therefore, accepted.
Tea sandwiches got replaced with compliments, gifts, ease, and then clients, sales, success, and larger amounts of money. Much of my first year of business was spent unwinding this idea that I can’t have more than a polite and respectable amount - even if it’s being offered - because that’s just not what “good” people do.
I know many of my clients have similar stories or narratives they learned growing up where society told them it’s not safe and definitely not acceptable to have a big appetite and to want too much, be too much, create too much, crave too much, or receive too much.
If any of this is ringing true for you, too, I want this to be your official invitation to say “fuck polite” in your business, to show up unapologetically as a CEO, and tell you that it is possible to feel safe being hungry for more. It’s safe, right, and OK to want more and have more.
In fact, allowing yourself to both crave more and receive more when it’s being given to you is pretty dang important if you want to be able to continue to make more sales and money.
When you allow yourself to BE the CEO who’s ok with satiating your own hunger and allowing yourself to be and feel FULL, you approach your entire business and the way you serve clients differently. And, in turn, clients and money respond to you differently.
You realize it’s not actually all that polite to decline offers from others, and it’s definitely not of service to you, your work, your people, or your bank account.
So, if you knew it was safe, if you knew it was okay, if you knew it was doing business right, if you knew it wasn't going to piss people off or someone wasn't going to say you weren't nice…if you weren’t suppressing yourself out of “politeness”, what would you allow yourself to be hungry for in your business?
What do satiety and fullness FEEL like in your business and with your finances?
What would you allow yourself to say “yes” to and open yourself up to receive?
Wishing you your version of success!
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